Dedicated to my family and to the grace that awakens
in the heart of giving and receiving
From the Introduction
When I fell into step with my Dad’s journey with dementia, I did not have any idea where we were going, how we would get there, or what we would encounter. But we would travel together with attention to the moments that would arise along the way.
When Lisa Steele-Maley began helping her father navigate the details of a life interrupted by dementia, she was in unfamiliar territory. As a wilderness traveler, she was accustomed to adapting to ever-changing situations, but as her father’s health declined, the idea of finding stability seemed impossible. Only one thing was sure: her father was losing perspective—losing track of time, the slippers at his feet, and his ability to find his way home. Lisa wasn’t sure she had the skills, experience, or patience to competently travel this path with him, but taking one step at a time, she found it was as simple—and as profound—as life in the wilderness: Be prepared, be present. Trust the process, stay close.
Without a Map weaves together Lisa’s experience of caregiving with lessons gleaned from decades of wilderness travel, rural living, and parenting. Revealing the uncertainty, wisdom, love and reciprocity of a caregiving relationship, this memoir contributes a deeply personal perspective to the subjects of dementia and aging.